Is Christian Counseling always Christian?

Posted by on 25 September, 2007
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Today’s Guest: Steve Viars is a member of the National Association of Nouthetic Counselors and Pastor of Faith Baptist Church where Nouthetic counseling is practiced and taught.

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3 Comments on “Is Christian Counseling always Christian?”

  • 1.
    Yvonne
    25 September, 2007, 6:09 pm

    Greg Koukl’s assessment for your consideration:

    “IS BIBLICAL COUNSELING BIBLICAL?

    Insight from Scripture and Classical Readings to the Current

    Anathematizing of Psychology” by Greg Koukl

    http://www.str.org/site/DocServer/counsel.pdf?docID=165

  • 2.
    pam tarrant
    26 September, 2007, 1:48 pm

    My husband and I started seeing a Christian Counselor in February. We have been married 26 years and my husband had a 2 year affair and I found out about it in Feb., 2007. I am devastated as are the children, ages 21, l7 and l0. My husband was willing to see the counselor after I found out and then he said he was too angry to go back. We only saw the Counselor together on 2 sessions, sometimes we would go 3 to 4 weeks in between visits. We both really like the Counselor and he has good creditials. My husband moved out of our home in Jan, 2007 before I know about the affair, said that things had to change, I asked him if there was someone else, he said no, why would I want another woman , you are all crazy! I later found out. This is so out of character for my husband, he was a Youth Pastor at our church for 6 years and then he was a couple’s SS class teacher and also chairman of the Deacons. He loves the Lord! He told me when I found out about the affair that “he walked away from God”. I have been willing to work on our marriage and I continue to this day to go to counseling. He, however, quit going to counseling and went back to the “other woman” and filed for divorce. I know this all sounds grim, but I have been praying for my husband since January that he would “return to his Faith”. I honestly feel like God is dealing with him. He has started taking one of the kids to church on Sundays, he is encouraging them to go to church as well. I continue to pray that “The Holy Spirit” will convict him and show him what God says about divorce. Willl you pray for our family as well. My name is Pam and my husband’s name is Mike. Back to our counselor, one of the questions my husband asked the counselor was “Is it right to stay together just for the kids”? He asked that on our first meeting. Our counselor said that he didn’t think couples should stay together “just for the kids”. After about 2 or 3 sessions with the counselor, my husband asked the counselor if he thought it would be okay for him to move back out, because he was so angry with me and he was short tempored with the kids, the counselor said it was the lessor of 2 evils and that if Mike would go to church and pray and do soul searching and continue counseling it might not be a bad idea. My husband became more angry and started treating me like a stranger and ended up going back to her. I did not agreee with the counselor on that, but my husband did not do what the counselor told him to do. He also told him that he needed to spend time with me, take me out or go to church with me at least once a week. He never did that. He would only talk to me in his shop, which is dark and gloomy. I would still like to work this marriage out, because I believe what God says about marriage and that sanctivation of marriage and that God is the author marriage. Divorce is of man, the legal way of tearing marriages apart. I don’t understand why my husband believes this woman, she has been married 3 times and she has been the one to leave each marriage. This woman was a friend of our family and she is very clever with words, she is just like the adultress woman in the Bible – her lips drip with honey. Please pray that my husband will open his eyes and that God would intervene and the divorce would be stopped.

    By the way – my husband and I have been married 26 years, our first marriage for both of us. We married young, l8 and 21, he has always been the love of my life. How does someone turn off love and go to someone else?

    Thanks,

    pam

  • 3.
    ADB
    26 September, 2007, 9:04 pm

    Pam,

    I grieve for your family right now, and I can tell from your post that you are understandably heartbroken. There’s not much that anyone can say to you right now that will magically fix things. You know first-hand how our enemy works, he so often makes things that we know to be wrong look so enticing. Keep praying and praying, and even when you don’t know how to put words together, pray some more and trust the the Holy Spirit will intercede for you, and that the same Spirit will renew the heart of your husband.

    You are exactly right that divorce is never good, and it is always the result of sin. That being said, you seem to have been upright throughout this so don’t beat yourself up or make up ways to feel guilty over someone else’s wrongdoing. I’m hesitant to recommend scripture passages sometimes because that can sound like “take two verses and call me in the morning,” but if you want to take a look at the first few verses of Isaiah 43.

    May Christ heal your heart and marriage.